One method I've found useful to check what your gut thinks is to write the options on pieces of paper, fold them up and put them in a bag.
Sit calmly somewhere for 5 or 10 minutes and clear your mind. Reach in and take one piece of paper out of the bag and read it. Watch what your reaction is.
Hope that helps, it's not an easy decision. Good luck with it.
[1 point]237 days ago by AaronReplyEdited 237 days ago by Aaron
My daughter has done that with her son but didn't do it with her daughter, and the daughter, to me is better adjusted to the world than the boy is, in my opinion and hers. Staying at daycare with other kids is a good way to get ready for things to come.
A friend of mine adopted a child - beautiful little girl. For the first two years of her daughter's life (not counting the first three months), she kept her job and her daughter spent the day in day care. To be honest with you, I thought the child might have had mental deficiencies. Her eyes were always dull, her mouth hung open. When my friend was laid off, she became a stay at home mom. I couldn't BELIEVE the difference in her daughter. Her eyes were bright, she was full of energy and inquisitiveness, laughed all the time - it was a complete 180 turn. I made up my mind at that time if I ever had children, I would be a stay at home mom at least until my kids were through kindergarten. Granted, it could have been the day care provider. If you WANT to work - try it for a time. If it seems to take a toll on your children, then stay home if you can afford it. There's nothing to keep you from re-entering the workforce when they start school full time.
Day care would never be an option to me. Once my daughter was born there was no way in hell I was going to let a stranger raise her. If the options are daycare or you then the answer has to be you. On the other hand if you have an extended family(grandparents, aunts, uncles)who can watch them then it is up to you.
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What would you prefer to do? It will not be a benefit if it is not what you want to be doing.
I'm torn. Seriously. I see the benefits of both.
One method I've found useful to check what your gut thinks is to write the options on pieces of paper, fold them up and put them in a bag.
Sit calmly somewhere for 5 or 10 minutes and clear your mind. Reach in and take one piece of paper out of the bag and read it. Watch what your reaction is.
Hope that helps, it's not an easy decision. Good luck with it.
My daughter has done that with her son but didn't do it with her daughter, and the daughter, to me is better adjusted to the world than the boy is, in my opinion and hers. Staying at daycare with other kids is a good way to get ready for things to come.
I 100% agree. You have to decide what YOU want for YOURSELF. If you're unhappy at home, but you're there "for the kids" it won't be much use.
It is a sacrifice you have to make for the kids. At least until they are school age.
A friend of mine adopted a child - beautiful little girl. For the first two years of her daughter's life (not counting the first three months), she kept her job and her daughter spent the day in day care. To be honest with you, I thought the child might have had mental deficiencies. Her eyes were always dull, her mouth hung open. When my friend was laid off, she became a stay at home mom. I couldn't BELIEVE the difference in her daughter. Her eyes were bright, she was full of energy and inquisitiveness, laughed all the time - it was a complete 180 turn. I made up my mind at that time if I ever had children, I would be a stay at home mom at least until my kids were through kindergarten. Granted, it could have been the day care provider. If you WANT to work - try it for a time. If it seems to take a toll on your children, then stay home if you can afford it. There's nothing to keep you from re-entering the workforce when they start school full time.
Day care would never be an option to me. Once my daughter was born there was no way in hell I was going to let a stranger raise her. If the options are daycare or you then the answer has to be you. On the other hand if you have an extended family(grandparents, aunts, uncles)who can watch them then it is up to you.
If you can afford to stay home, then I think it's a great idea.
I wouldnt, you will regret wasting your carear for a couple of tiring years later in life.